Category Archives: Parenting

New Course: Presence, Integration, and the Cultivation of Well-Being in Relationships and Family Systems

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This new course, launching on July 14 — and only available for a limited time — focuses on how making sense of our experiences and relationships shapes the way we interact with others and the world around us. Cultivating presence can help support important changes in neural structure that lead to integration, balance, happiness, and more rewarding and deeply connected relationships.

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You Said WHAT About Time-Outs?!

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We recently wrote an article for TIME Magazine online where we discussed time-outs as a discipline strategy. We’ve received a great deal of positive feedback on the piece, and some criticism as well. We’re excited that people are thinking and talking about the important ways that parents interact with and influence their children in discipline moments, but we’d also like to clear up any confusion about our position on time-outs. Continue reading

No Drama Discipline

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After Tina Payne Bryson and I wrote The Whole-Brain Child a few years ago, we were struck at how the term “discipline” was often used in our workshops by parents as a synonym for “punishment.” And so we felt it was important in our next book to help clarify that the term discipline really means “to teach,” and that the recipient of our discipline is a student, not a prisoner. Continue reading

Mind, Emotion, and the Spectrum of Autism

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Last month was Autism Awareness month and I’m writing today to remind us that autism continues to be a compelling global issue that consumes the tireless efforts of families and professionals throughout the year.

In our human family, there are many ways the now seven billion (and rising) of us live in the world.  Our culture shapes our communication with each other interconnecting us across the planet in our fast-moving digital age.  Human societal change unfolds as cultural evolution influences us by way of how our interactions with each other shape us across the generations.  Continue reading

How to Bring Presence Into Our Modern, Digitized World

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For the past few years, I’ve attended an interactive conference called Wisdom 2.0, an annual event that encourages the ongoing conversation about how to bring more mindful awareness and compassion to our modern-day, digital world. At the most recent gathering in San Francisco, I was honored to be both a participant and a speaker in a weekend full of presentations, breakout sessions, and discussions.  Continue reading

Changing the Cultural Conversation About Adolescence

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Adolescence has a power and purpose much like a waterfall. We can’t stop the water from flowing, but we can learn to channel its force in ways that are helpful for all concerned. During adolescence, a period that runs roughly a dozen years into the mid-twenties, the brain is busy remodeling itself in order to create integration, the body changes with the onset of puberty, and a need for more independence with adults emerges.  Continue reading

The Self is Not Defined by the Boundaries of Our Skin

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Recently, I’ve spoken at several conferences around the country about mindfulness in adolescents, attachment in families, and bringing more awareness and compassion to our digital lives.  One comment in particular that I made at each of these speaking engagements seemed to garner the most curiosity and attention.  The statement is this: The self is not defined by the boundaries of our skin.  Continue reading

Pruning, Myelination, and the Remodeling Adolescent Brain

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It’s not so easy being an adolescent these days.  We become aware of the world around us, are flooded with input through digital media about our extended global family, and learn about the world’s intense and overwhelming problems. And even more, puberty’s onset is getting earlier, and the time between our childhood dependence and adult responsibility over the last century has moved from a couple of years to a dozen or more.  Continue reading

The ESSENCE of Adolescence

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Our modern culture encourages deeply pervasive myths about adolescence.  Those myths we hear casually in repetition—that teens are driven mad by “raging hormones,” that as people they are “just immature and need to grow up,” or that their “undeveloped prefrontal cortex makes them undependable and moody”—are all misconceptions that not only imprison how we as adults see adolescents, but also influence how adolescents themselves behave.  Continue reading